Category Archives: Long-term Relationship

Captain’s Log, 3/27/04: This Stolen Night

These past two months have been a whirlwind of sinking, scrambling, and sidelining with little swimming. I find myself newly transplanted in my hometown, back to the bittersweet midwest. Not only does it feel great to be back in a real city, but my first thoughts upon solidifying this decision were of the Ambassador (read a bit of background on our relationship here). I would have picked a much less silly name for this perma-crush had I known he would now be at the forefront of my thoughts. Continue reading

Great articles about choosing a life partner.

If your relationship goal is life partnership, check out these wonderful articles over at Wait, but Why!  Hilariously written and illustrated with AWESOME wisdom to boot.

http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html

http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner-part-2.html

Captain’s Log, 8/1/06: The Cheat: Chapter 2

Tags: emotional affair, long-term relationship, monogamy

I suppose that was rude of me to not go ahead and just post Chapter 2…

So here we are. We’ve moved in together. A series of strange things have happened that I fail to notice through my Buddhist-colored glasses. I am in love. I think he is the one. I am infatuated. I cannot think of anything else and I could not fathom him ever hurting me.

The majority of the first year was great. We had so many amazing adventures. We spent a lot of time traveling and taking photographs, updating our Flickr accounts religiously. It wasn’t until the end of that year that I started to notice him creating distance in our relationship. He spent long hours on social media, instant messenger, and email. He became closed off and angry if I entered the room while he was on his computer. What was going on? I let it slide. Happy. Carefree. 20.  Continue reading

Captain’s Log, 1/1/06: The Cheat: Chapter 1

Tags: emotional affair, long-term relationship, monogamy

Where do I even begin? …This is the story of the one and only relationship that destroyed me during and in the years to follow. The only relationship that taught me not to trust. Taught me to envelop myself in insecurities. Taught me to give without reciprocity. Gave me a stomachache, headache, and heartache for three years. This is the story of the only time I have ever allowed myself to love someone – I haven’t been able to give myself the same way since.  Continue reading

Captain’s Log, 9/21/14: Slow Loris

Tags: taking it slow, dating, boundaries, emotional intimacy

I’ve been given the relationship advice lately to “take it slow” and I’m realizing I don’t actually know what that means. Embarrassingly, I had to search online for tips. Yeah, I’m the one that falls into a relationship directly after the previous (serial dater). New people and new bodies are just so exciting, I can’t help but fall into the web of infatuation. Noticing this pattern, my older mentors worry about my tendency to jump into things much too fast.  Continue reading

Captain’s Log, 4/22/09: The Birthday Gift

Tags: gift, birthday, long-term relationship

I’m not one to demand gifts, but I love to give gifts and I assume others do as well. Especially when you really care for someone; it’s a great way to show appreciation for friendship. My partner at the time was not one of those people, so I didn’t really expect anything from him that year. To be honest, though, I always reserve a little hope that someone might organize a small party or take me out for a surprise dinner. A girl can dream, right?  Continue reading